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Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Tips For Dating Women For Men Looking For A Relationship

There are numerous details that an individual needs to think about when they are looking to approach a woman. Those who do things the wrong way are most likely going to walk away with very few phone numbers, if any at all, for the night. Guys who want to find the proper girl will need to take the time read through these tips for dating women. Get going right now and enjoy the results to come.
It is important to remember that there is no need to put on any sort of act. Ladies do not usually like this approach and will be turned off by it, the minute they know a guy is trying to put on some sort of act or front. Men who do so are not secure enough with themselves. So lying and putting on a front will not get you far.
On top of that, there is really no rush when it comes to dating women. People often feel like they need to be on fast mode so that they can get to where they want to be in the relationship. However, the dating process should be the most fun process out of them all. This is the time to get to know people and keep some options open before settling down on just one person. Take it slow, hang out on nice dates, and go out on nice dinners to get to know each other.
Men should ensure that they are looking good and presentable. Women do judge off of looks these days and if a guy is not cleaned up enough, he could be looked over. Shaving is not bad though some women like bearded men, and it is always a good idea to invest in some new clothing just to look completely sharp throughout the entire evening.
There is no problem with continuing to be old fashioned. Open up the doors for the lady and make sure that she gets everything she needs. This is not as common these days as people might think. In fact, many ladies end up doing all of that on their own simply because guys are not used to doing these things.
The entire night should be covered by the guy. Again, this is an old fashioned type of sign, but when dating a lady and taking her out ensure that the bill can be covered. Many women still like to be treated and she should be grateful for the whole evening.
These tips for dating women should come in handy for anyone. There are plenty of great methods to use in order to get a hold of a lady that is unlike any other. Look around right now and be smart about taking her out and treating her.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Rules of Texting and Dating Part 2

Here's the second installement of Texting and Dating. Enjoy!


As I mentioned in part I of my series on texting and dating, many people rely on texting as their primary means of communication. While this is convenient, it’s not always a good thing for budding relationships. (See previous list of texting DON’Ts.)
On the other hand, texting is a great way to show your creativity and keep a connection going after a great date. Let’s face it, we all get busy and don’t have the time to send off a long email or make a phone call. But texting allows us to check in quickly and easily. Plus, it keeps the excitement going until the next time you see each other.
Following are some texting DO’s that can help move your relationships forward:
DO text to confirm plans. If you’re meeting someone for a drink, send a quick text to confirm, or to let them know if you’re running late. Simple gestures like these go a long way in showing someone you’ve just started dating that you are considerate and not a flake.
DO text a thank-you after the date. Gone are the days of waiting three days for a phone call. Instead, most relationships move forward or fall off quickly. Send your date a brief text thanking him for the date and letting him know you’d like to get together again. Then let him respond…no need to keep texting indefinitely with no response.
DO text flirtatiously. If you are excited about someone you just met and want to keep the connection going, it’s okay to get a little flirty over text. Show your creativity and be clever. But don’t be tempted to send naked photos even if you think your texts have progressed to "sexts". Far too many bad things can happen, from your picture getting posted online to offending the object of your affection. Save that for in-person time.
DO text promptly. There’s no need to wait several days before responding to a text to keep a guy or girl interested. If you get a text, try to respond within a couple of hours. This shows your interest. If you wait, he might assume you’re not and move on.
For further tips and advice on this topic, check out our review of Guy's Guide to Texting.

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Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Rules of Texting and Dating

Here are a few simple rules when it comes to Dating and Texting. It's a little list of what not to do when mixing texting in with a relationship.


Let’s face it, we all text now, probably more than we actually talk to people over the phone. It’s convenient, efficient, and allows you to continue with your day uninterrupted by something like a twenty-minute conversation with your friend about what she should wear to a party.
But sometimes, it’s a little too convenient. According to a recent study done by Shape and Men’s Fitness Magazine, 43% of women and 27% of men polled said they’d received a break-up message over text. If you’ve ever been dumped via text, it doesn’t feel too great. People deserve a little more respect, no matter how well you know them.
I’ve put together a list of texting DON’Ts for those of you who might be a little confused as to what works and what doesn’t when you’re dating.
Don’t plan a first date over text. Call first. See how your phone chemistry is before you start trading flirtatious texts back and forth. When you talk, you can establish more firm plans than a vague “let’s get together this week” text.
Don’t text when you’re drunk. This goes without saying, but worth a reminder. If you have a few too many and start thinking about your ex, sometimes it’s easy to just send a quick text and drive yourself crazy waiting for a response. Don’t give in.
Don’t send 50 texts hoping he’ll respond eventually. One or two flirtatious texts is great to keep a connection going, but if you send multiple texts with no response, you’re going to look needy. If she doesn’t respond the first time, move on.
Don’t try to argue over text. If you get angry and want to make a point, pick up the phone or meet in person. Emotions are difficult to convey over text, and arguments can lead to even more misunderstanding.
Don’t break up over text. Have some respect for your soon-to-be ex. Pick up the phone or meet in person. Sending an email is fine if you’ve only been out a few times. Calling or emailing makes for a cleaner break-up and both of you can move forward with no doubts about what’s going on. Yes, it takes courage but it’s better than trying to avoid conflict by texting. This will only create more confusion and anger. Don’t hide behind your actions, and then both of you can move on.

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Wednesday, February 16, 2011

A Post Valentine's Day Musing...

So this morning I was riding the subway and ran into a friend of mine...I asked her how her Valentine's Day was and she replied...

"Eh...me and Derrek just argued the whole day."
"Hmph...About?" I asked, "Sorry if i'm intruding."
She sighed and said "Everything...first he wasn't being romantic, so I started crying and then he got me flowers but then I told him it was pointless and then we went out to dinner and was in a bad mood and...."

She continued, but at this point I was already lost in thought..."Sounds more like D-Day to me...Are women really like this?" Hell, I'm a woman, but to me (especially considering I work in the dating indsustry) Valentine's Day has sort of just become yet another day to me.

In my opinion, you shouldn't need a day to be romantic. What if you're just having a crappy day and it happens to be Valentine's Day? What do you do? You grin and bear it and you still do nice things for your sweetie, because that's what you're "supposed" to do.

So what I'm really getting at, is a message to all my ladies out there...Don't be so hard on your fella! If you're with a man who's generally romantic and sweet to you in your everyday life, don't get all pissy when he isn't being "romantic enough" on V-Day. Maybe he's just having a rough day, so before you freak out on him, talk to him and see if he's okay...let him know you can take a rain check. Because honestly, what sounds more appealing:

 Option A) Go out to dinner on Valentine's Day after several arguments, and both of you feeling "not in the mood" to be lovey dovey

 Option B) Take a rain check, cool down, go out for a romantic night on the town on another night and have a blast!

Who knows, maybe they both sound unappealing to you.

And now for the men...

Here's a MAJOR tip:

Be her knight in shining armor, and I use that term in the sense of take a day to be her romanticized version of the perfect man. She wants to be swooned! Keep in mind all women are different. Some women enjoy Coach Bags and Tiffany necklaces. I don't. I'd prefer a vintage locket or something he found at a thrift store he thought I'd like. Money aside, most women love romance.

Write her a hand written letter or card and give it to her. In fact, MAIL it to her sans return address. When was the last time you received a hand written letter in the mail? Exactly. The benefit of giving it to her in person though is seeing her have that "Omigod I'm totally going to cry because this is the sweetest man I've ever met..." and then she'll likely give you one big smooch!

Don't know what to write? Pish Posh! Just tell her how you feel "I love the way your skin feels and the way you smell even when you're not wearing perfume. I love your laugh and how you ...etc" You get the idea...

Single and wanting love?
 Well that's what SpeedDateUSA.com is here for. We have a ton of upcoming events in our home city in Philadelphia. Come have a night on the town and meet singles in your age range, or singles that have similar interests. Maybe you won't find your future husband...or hell, maybe you will. But you will most definitely make a few friends and have a hell of a good time!

Got your eye on someone special but you're not sure how to approach them?

Email me at advice@SpeedDateUSA.com. I'll offer you FREE unbiased advice, and then, with your permission, post the question and answer here to help our other readers. Please note that names, dates, and other identifying information will be omitted or alterted to protect your privacy.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Body language - a significant means of expression

Body language is a significant means of genuine expression - it doesn't lie. We hide behind our words, and seek to give a certain impression.
Regardless of what language you speak, the international language of body language allows all cultures to communicate. It allows anyone of any age to express themselves, from an infant right up to the elderly, without even speaking one word. There's no mistaking the meaning of a smile, a wave or a simple hand gesture to ask for or to offer assistance.
While we can control our body language to a fair degree, one thing we can’t control is our pupils – yes, one of the most subtle signs that someone is attracted to you is in the eyes. Nancy Fagin writes on the BBW Magazine website: "One of the obvious signs of physiological attraction is enlarged pupils. There are two main factors that cause our pupils to dilate, attraction and dim light. To confirm whether you think someone's eyes are dilating, try and do some subtle comparisons with others in the same room."
With all the advancements of modern technologies, and for those who utilize social online tools such as Face Book, free dating websites or singles chat rooms , online social outlets still make it difficult to determine ones body language in comparison to conventional dating methods where you have the advantage to determine whether he or she is interested in you by their body language.
There are plenty of other clues that show whether someone is interested in you or not. And if you’re looking for clues, cast your eyes down to the ground and see what his or her feet are doing – if their feet are pointing in your direction, then you could be on a winner.
And the foot bone is connected to the leg bone….Yep, legs will tell you something as well. If someone likes you, they will cross their legs towards you – if the legs are crossed away from you, this is a way of shutting you out.
More obvious is the way the body is facing. Says Nancy Fagin "the trunk of their body will face you squarely" if they're interested. Mirroring is another fascinating aspect of body language. Tim Boucher, a self-described itinerant scholar, explains it like this on his website: "(Mirroring) "Put simply, this implies you subconsciously do whatever it is they are doing. When they choose to move forward in your direction to say something intimate to you, you also move forward to meet them. Equally, if they move back in their chair and take a sip from their glass and look you straight in the eye, when you are attracted to someone, you will pause then copy them".
The hypothesis behind mirroring means that basically we like someone, or can sometimes be attracted to people who we mirror and are more likely to trust them. When a person does what we are doing, we are more inclined to feel like they are on our level and can assume they feel comfortable in our company.
Touch is another big cue. If the person finds any excuse to touch you (like removing a bit of lint from your clothing) this is a sign that they're keen. Touch is used by singles in the flirting stakes to communicate interest. So learn to read the signs…from top to toe, our bodies always tell the truth.
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Wednesday, January 5, 2011

76 Interesting Facts About... Dating and Relationships (From facts.randomhistory.com)

Hello fellow bloggers! I came across this and thought you may enjoy...notice the speed dating facts!

76 Interesing Facts About . . .

Dating and Relationships

  1. Couples usually wait until six to eight dates before they are willing to enter into an exclusive relationship.c
  2. Speed dating, invented by a rabbi from Los Angeles in 1999, is based on a Jewish tradition of chaperoned gatherings of young Jewish singles.a
  3. The most common time for breakups is around three to five months.c
  4. couple trade keys
    A couple will exchange house keys on an average of 12-14 dates
  5. On average, it takes between 12 to 14 dates before couples will trade house keys.c
  6. One in three teenagers have experienced violence in a dating relationship.o
  7. In a survey conducted by MSNBC.com and Elle magazine, more than 31% of men said they dumped an overweight partner compared to 12% of women.l
  8. Women who post a photo on Internet dating sites receive twice as many email messages as women who don’t. The same study found that men who reported incomes higher than $250,000 received 156% more email than those with $50,000.d
  9. Match.com reports that 44% of its members in the United States have children.j
  10. On free dating sites, at least 10% of new accounts are from scammers.n
  11. If a man can’t decide what to wear on a date, he might want to wear blue. Studies show that women are attracted to men in blue.r
  12. Ninety-two percent of single parents would rather date other single parents.m
  13. Thirty-three percent of online daters form a relationship, 33% do not, and 33% give up.o
  14. The online dating industry generates $1.8 billion per year and the matchmaker/dating coach business generates $260 million per year in the United States.n
  15. The third week in September is National Singles Week in the U.S.f
  16. According to the U.S. census, there are 95.9 million unmarried people in the U.S. of which 47% are men and 53% are women.f
  17. Researchers at the University of Chicago found that people were twice as likely to find a date through friends and family than through the bar scene.m
  18. Four out of 10 workplace dating relationships result in marriage.i
  19. instant attraction
    It only takes seconds to decide another person’s attractiveness
  20. Psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania studied data from over 10,000 speed daters and found that most people make a decision regarding a person’s attraction within three seconds of meeting.l
  21. One Manhattan matchmaker’s price begins at $20,000. If a match (marriage) results, a marriage bonus is expected.m
  22. At 4M Multimillionaire Matchmaking Club based in Seattle, WA, clients are men who have made millions but are still single. The matchmaking service charges between $10,000 and $30,000 for men. Women pay around $250 to be listed as potential partners.m
  23. In the online dating world, women are afraid of meeting a serial killer. Men are afraid of meeting someone “fat.” According to Ann Rule, about 3% of men are psychopaths, of which only a tiny percentage are serial killers.i
  24. In a survey of 5,000 singles conducted by Match.com, 43% said fresh breath mattered the most before a date, 17% said stylish clothes, 15% said sexy fragrance, 14% said good skin, and 10% said great hair.r
  25. Typically, dating specialists suggest waiting until the third date to cook someone dinner at home.m
  26. Nearly 40% of men do not feel confident meeting a woman for the first time.r
  27. Immediately after Tiger Wood’s affairs became public, men looking for discreet relationships on BeNaughty.com dropped by 47.5%.g
  28. During the early twentieth century, dating evolved out of a courtship ritual where young women entertained male callers under the watch of a chaperone. By the 1960s and 1970s, “hooking up” increasingly replaced dating, mainly because the age at which people marry for the first time had begun creeping up.p
  29. Studies show that schools, colleges, coffee shops, and malls are all excellent places to flirt because people are more open to meeting others in these places. Poor locations are restaurants and movie theaters.m
  30. Studies show that before a man even speaks a word, the way he stands (whether he is slouching or not) counts for over 80% of woman’s first impression.r
  31. happy man
    Happy people attract more dates
  32. Studies show that happiness is contagious and that potential dates find it hard to walk away from happy people. One of the biggest turn-offs during a date is negativity.m
  33. Studies show that men are put off by groups of loud women. If a woman wants to get a date, she should break away from a loud group to give a man a chance to approach her.q
  34. Mirroring, or repeating someone’s body language, often impresses a date because it subtly conveys interest to the other person. One should avoid copying every move, however.k
  35. Body language studies show that revealing areas of the body that aren’t usually on display (such as the inner wrist, the inside of the upper arm, ankles, feet, inside calf muscle, and the nape of the neck) has an immediate effect on a date and shows an instant liking.k
  36. If you want to create an instant link with a date, say his or her name at least twice in the conversation. This shows attentiveness and connectiveness.l
  37. Studies show that remembering bits of information about a person and working them into conversations not only is highly flattering but also shows interest.i
  38. Bad breath and bad teeth are an instant turn-off for potential dates. If deep dental cleaning doesn’t improve a person’s breath, he or she could have a stomach bacterium called H. pylori, which causes bad breath.r
  39. Research has confirmed that women are more attracted to men who wear pheromone-based colognes or aftershaves such as 10X. Studies have also shown that women, who have a stronger sense of smell than men, are particularly attracted to musk and black licorice smells.r
  40. Body type is important in attracting a date. Studies show that overweight individuals were perceived less favorably than thin or muscular people. Thin individuals were perceived as intelligent but fearful, and muscular individuals were perceived as being healthy, brave, and good looking.r
  41. Top ten turn-offs for women include cystic acne, raggedy nails, flatulence and belching, missing teeth, body odor, bad breath, hairy nostrils, “man boobs,” “goofy” glasses, and hair “mistakes.”r
  42. Depending on the type of women a man would like to meet, he should visit that type of clothing store. For example, if a man likes “outdoorsy” women, he should go to an outdoor clothing store.l
  43. When a man first approaches a woman, she will base 55% of her initial impression of him on his appearance and body language, 38% on his style of speaking, and 7% on what he actually says.r
  44. If a group of women are standing together but their eyes are wandering, they are likely to be looking for guys. If they each take a turn to break away from the group to head to the bathroom alone, they are on the prowl. If they are huddled together giggling, they are usually not interested in finding men.q
  45. woman flirts
    A woman will express interest in her date in several subtle ways
  46. If a woman is interested in her date, she will often smile at his jokes, play with her hair, fidget with an object such as a glass, blush when he pays her a compliment, pout or pucker her mouth, stumble over words, or lean in towards him.r
  47. Signs that a woman is not interested in her date include avoiding eye contact, faking a smile or not smiling, leaning away, answering in monosyllables, sagging her shoulders, looking at her watch, tapping her foot, or staring blankly.r
  48. Beautiful women typically get more stares, winks, and harassment than average-looking women do, but they are also less likely to get asked out by average-looking men because those men tend to be intimated by them.r
  49. The appropriate time to call after meeting a man or woman is hotly debated among dating experts. Typically, the ideal time to wait to call is two to four days, though no longer than four to five days. Calling too soon can appear desperate.l
  50. Choosing exciting places for a first date increases the chances of the other person falling for you. There is a definitive link between danger and physical/romantic attraction.k
  51. Worst places to go on first date include fast-food restaurants, your kids’ birthday party or school play, your parents’ house, strip clubs, X-rated films or swingers parties, a party where your ex will be, church activities, or window shopping.k
  52. Dating specialists suggest that if a woman doesn’t return a call after two messages, she is not interested.r
  53. If a woman offers to pay for everything, chances are she isn’t that into the date. There’s an unspoken understanding that a man paying for everything is a form of “copulatory gift,” which is almost universal in all animal species.r
  54. Eye contact, or a “copulatory gaze,” is a primary and powerful tool for attracting a potential date for both men and women. However, the meaning of various types of eye contact differs from culture to culture.l
  55. Statistics show that trying to get a relationship to work with an ex doesn’t usually work. The case where it might work is if there were extenuating circumstances of the breakup, such as one of couple had been going through a family tragedy or moved.l
  56. In American society, when a man offers his date his palm face up, he is most likely deeply attracted to the woman. In fact, a human’s brain is wired to respond to hand gestures and hand shapes, though the brain’s response depends on the man or woman’s culture and ethnicity.l
  57. Research shows that men know they’re falling in love after just three dates, but women don’t fall in love until date 14.c
  58. kiss
    An average couple will kiss on the second date
  59. On average, daters will kiss on the second date.c
  60. A recent AOL survey says that 40% of women view an appropriate time frame to wait for sex as being one to three months, while 35% of men think the third date is fine. On average, couples have sex within about four to six dates.h
  61. Twenty-nine percent of Americans have had sex on the first date.h
  62. It is hard for a man to strike up a conversation if there are just two women at a social scene because he doesn’t want the other friend to feel abandoned. So a woman who is looking to attract a date should bring two “wing women” with her.q
  63. Talking to a bartender makes a woman seem more friendly and makes it easier for a guy to jump in on her conversation.q
  64. A woman can increase the likelihood of a man approaching her if she uncrosses her arms, makes subtle eye contact, and smiles.q
  65. Italian food is one of the most popular restaurants for a first date.b
  66. Twenty to 40 million Americans have used online dating services. Nearly 50% of online daters are aged 18-34 and 24% are 35-44.e
  67. On average, there are 86 unmarried men for every 100 unmarried women in the U.S., though the actual numbers vary according to region.f
  68. New York and Washington have the most state residents who are unmarried, 50% and 70%, respectively. Idaho and Utah have the most state residents who are married, 60% and 59%.f
  69. Approximately 48% of online daters reported that their breakups occurred via email.e
  70. On Match.com, 132 million winks are sent out each year and members go out on a six million dates per year.j
  71. eHarmony.com boasts that 236 of its members marry each day, accounting for 2% of U.S. marriages.d
  72. “Desperate” daters are typically always available, are clingy, need constant relationship status updates, fish for compliments, drop their standards, and rationalize bad treatment.r
  73. single man
    Over half of all singles in America have not had a date in over two years
  74. Over 50% of all singles in America have not had a date in more than two years.o
  75. Five types of women that men tend to avoid are serial flirters, someone who talks about marriage too soon, clingy women, the party-girl, and a woman who talks too much or is drama queen.l
  76. Four common date blunders include showing up late, talking about yourself too much, revealing too much about your ex, and an obvious over-eagerness.l
  77. A man’s top dating fears include that a woman will come between him and his friends, won’t allow him free time, will turn out to be a stalker, won’t respect him, or will be too high maintenance.m
  78. Five common signs a man may be cheating in a relationship are that he accuses his partner of cheating, he’s extremely vague, he seems to be compensating by acting extra nice for no reason, he’s always at work, and his partner's friends drop her hints.l
  79. The curve of the counter in a bar is designed so other customers can easily “check out” other customers. Bars also purposely place mirrors to help create a larger sense of place and to allow a person to scope out other people behind them.q
  80. Signs that a man is about to break up with a woman include that he spends less time with her, he is no longer romantic, passionate kissing turns into quick pecks (particularly no kiss during sex), he fantasizes about someone else during sex, he pats her during a hug, and he tries to start fights.l
  81. An attractive online “About Me” section in your online dating profile often includes a brief description of what you are passionate about or thankful for, a couple of things your friends say about you, qualities you are looking for in a potential partner, the first thing people notice about you (other than appearance), how you spend your leisure time, five things you can’t live without, and the latest good book you’ve read.i
  82. Humans like mystery and “the chase,” so don't be too “available” to a date. Dating experts typically suggest not sleeping too early with a date because the longer the chase, the more likely love will blossom.q
-- Posted January 8, 2010
References
a Campbell, Carolyn. “Speed Dating: A New Form of Matchmaking.” Discovery.com. Accessed: December 29, 2009.
b Cartler, Gregory. “Appropriate Restaurants.” AskMen.com. Accessed: December 27, 2009.
c Daily, Lisa. “Dating Averages: What’s Your Normal?” Canoe.ca. September 18, 2009. Accessed: December 29, 2009.
d “Dating Tips.” eHarmony.com. Accessed: December 28, 2009.
e Evans, David. “Match.com Success Rate.” Online Dating Insider. Accessed: December 29, 2009.
f “Facts for Features: Unmarried and Single Americans Week.” CensusBureau.gov. July 21, 2009. Accessed: December 24, 2009.
g Grewal, Sukdeep. “Tiger Woods Sex Scandal ‘Turns-off’ Netizens Looking for ‘Discreet’ Relationships.” TopNews.in. December 23, 2009. Accessed: December 26, 2009.
h Langer, Gary. “Poll: American Sex Survey.” ABCNews.com. October 21, 2004. Accessed: December 29, 2009.
i Mapes, Diane. 2006. How to Date in a Post-Dating World. Seattle, WA: Sasquatch Books.
j “Member Statistics.” Match.com. Accessed: December 29, 2009.
k Naik, Anita.2004. Flirtology: Over 100 Ways to Release Your Inner Flirt. New York, NY: Penguin Books.
l Santagati, Steve. 2007. The MANual. New York, NY: Crown Publishing.
m Spindel, Janis. 2007. How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America’s Top  Matchmaker. New York, NY: Penguin Group.
n “U.S. Dating Services Market Now Worth $1.8 Billion, Holding Up Despite the Recession.”  Marketdata Enterprise, Inc. April 1, 2009. Accessed: January 6, 2010.
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p Wilson, Brenda. “Sex without Intimacy: No Dating, No Relationships.” NPR.org. June 8, 2009. Accessed: December 23, 2009.
q Zaricc, Dushan and Jason Kosmos. 2006. You Didn’t Hear It From Us: Two Bartenders Serve Women the Truth about Men, Making an Impression, and Getting What You Want. New York, NY: Atria Books.
r Zdrock, Victoria. 2008. Dr. Z on Scoring: How to Pick Up, Seduce, and Hook Up with Hot Women. New York, NY: A Fireside Book.
  1. Couples usually wait until six to eight dates before they are willing to enter into an exclusive relationship.c
  2. Speed dating, invented by a rabbi from Los Angeles in 1999, is based on a Jewish tradition of chaperoned gatherings of young Jewish singles.a
  3. The most common time for breakups is around three to five months.c
  4. couple trade keys
    A couple will exchange house keys on an average of 12-14 dates
  5. On average, it takes between 12 to 14 dates before couples will trade house keys.c
  6. One in three teenagers have experienced violence in a dating relationship.o
  7. In a survey conducted by MSNBC.com and Elle magazine, more than 31% of men said they dumped an overweight partner compared to 12% of women.l
  8. Women who post a photo on Internet dating sites receive twice as many email messages as women who don’t. The same study found that men who reported incomes higher than $250,000 received 156% more email than those with $50,000.d
  9. Match.com reports that 44% of its members in the United States have children.j
  10. On free dating sites, at least 10% of new accounts are from scammers.n
  11. If a man can’t decide what to wear on a date, he might want to wear blue. Studies show that women are attracted to men in blue.r
  12. Ninety-two percent of single parents would rather date other single parents.m
  13. Thirty-three percent of online daters form a relationship, 33% do not, and 33% give up.o
  14. The online dating industry generates $1.8 billion per year and the matchmaker/dating coach business generates $260 million per year in the United States.n
  15. The third week in September is National Singles Week in the U.S.f
  16. According to the U.S. census, there are 95.9 million unmarried people in the U.S. of which 47% are men and 53% are women.f
  17. Researchers at the University of Chicago found that people were twice as likely to find a date through friends and family than through the bar scene.m
  18. Four out of 10 workplace dating relationships result in marriage.i
  19. instant attraction
    It only takes seconds to decide another person’s attractiveness
  20. Psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania studied data from over 10,000 speed daters and found that most people make a decision regarding a person’s attraction within three seconds of meeting.l
  21. One Manhattan matchmaker’s price begins at $20,000. If a match (marriage) results, a marriage bonus is expected.m
  22. At 4M Multimillionaire Matchmaking Club based in Seattle, WA, clients are men who have made millions but are still single. The matchmaking service charges between $10,000 and $30,000 for men. Women pay around $250 to be listed as potential partners.m
  23. In the online dating world, women are afraid of meeting a serial killer. Men are afraid of meeting someone “fat.” According to Ann Rule, about 3% of men are psychopaths, of which only a tiny percentage are serial killers.i
  24. In a survey of 5,000 singles conducted by Match.com, 43% said fresh breath mattered the most before a date, 17% said stylish clothes, 15% said sexy fragrance, 14% said good skin, and 10% said great hair.r
  25. Typically, dating specialists suggest waiting until the third date to cook someone dinner at home.m
  26. Nearly 40% of men do not feel confident meeting a woman for the first time.r
  27. Immediately after Tiger Wood’s affairs became public, men looking for discreet relationships on BeNaughty.com dropped by 47.5%.g
  28. During the early twentieth century, dating evolved out of a courtship ritual where young women entertained male callers under the watch of a chaperone. By the 1960s and 1970s, “hooking up” increasingly replaced dating, mainly because the age at which people marry for the first time had begun creeping up.p
  29. Studies show that schools, colleges, coffee shops, and malls are all excellent places to flirt because people are more open to meeting others in these places. Poor locations are restaurants and movie theaters.m
  30. Studies show that before a man even speaks a word, the way he stands (whether he is slouching or not) counts for over 80% of woman’s first impression.r
  31. happy man
    Happy people attract more dates
  32. Studies show that happiness is contagious and that potential dates find it hard to walk away from happy people. One of the biggest turn-offs during a date is negativity.m
  33. Studies show that men are put off by groups of loud women. If a woman wants to get a date, she should break away from a loud group to give a man a chance to approach her.q
  34. Mirroring, or repeating someone’s body language, often impresses a date because it subtly conveys interest to the other person. One should avoid copying every move, however.k
  35. Body language studies show that revealing areas of the body that aren’t usually on display (such as the inner wrist, the inside of the upper arm, ankles, feet, inside calf muscle, and the nape of the neck) has an immediate effect on a date and shows an instant liking.k
  36. If you want to create an instant link with a date, say his or her name at least twice in the conversation. This shows attentiveness and connectiveness.l
  37. Studies show that remembering bits of information about a person and working them into conversations not only is highly flattering but also shows interest.i
  38. Bad breath and bad teeth are an instant turn-off for potential dates. If deep dental cleaning doesn’t improve a person’s breath, he or she could have a stomach bacterium called H. pylori, which causes bad breath.r
  39. Research has confirmed that women are more attracted to men who wear pheromone-based colognes or aftershaves such as 10X. Studies have also shown that women, who have a stronger sense of smell than men, are particularly attracted to musk and black licorice smells.r
  40. Body type is important in attracting a date. Studies show that overweight individuals were perceived less favorably than thin or muscular people. Thin individuals were perceived as intelligent but fearful, and muscular individuals were perceived as being healthy, brave, and good looking.r
  41. Top ten turn-offs for women include cystic acne, raggedy nails, flatulence and belching, missing teeth, body odor, bad breath, hairy nostrils, “man boobs,” “goofy” glasses, and hair “mistakes.”r
  42. Depending on the type of women a man would like to meet, he should visit that type of clothing store. For example, if a man likes “outdoorsy” women, he should go to an outdoor clothing store.l
  43. When a man first approaches a woman, she will base 55% of her initial impression of him on his appearance and body language, 38% on his style of speaking, and 7% on what he actually says.r
  44. If a group of women are standing together but their eyes are wandering, they are likely to be looking for guys. If they each take a turn to break away from the group to head to the bathroom alone, they are on the prowl. If they are huddled together giggling, they are usually not interested in finding men.q
  45. woman flirts
    A woman will express interest in her date in several subtle ways
  46. If a woman is interested in her date, she will often smile at his jokes, play with her hair, fidget with an object such as a glass, blush when he pays her a compliment, pout or pucker her mouth, stumble over words, or lean in towards him.r
  47. Signs that a woman is not interested in her date include avoiding eye contact, faking a smile or not smiling, leaning away, answering in monosyllables, sagging her shoulders, looking at her watch, tapping her foot, or staring blankly.r
  48. Beautiful women typically get more stares, winks, and harassment than average-looking women do, but they are also less likely to get asked out by average-looking men because those men tend to be intimated by them.r
  49. The appropriate time to call after meeting a man or woman is hotly debated among dating experts. Typically, the ideal time to wait to call is two to four days, though no longer than four to five days. Calling too soon can appear desperate.l
  50. Choosing exciting places for a first date increases the chances of the other person falling for you. There is a definitive link between danger and physical/romantic attraction.k
  51. Worst places to go on first date include fast-food restaurants, your kids’ birthday party or school play, your parents’ house, strip clubs, X-rated films or swingers parties, a party where your ex will be, church activities, or window shopping.k
  52. Dating specialists suggest that if a woman doesn’t return a call after two messages, she is not interested.r
  53. If a woman offers to pay for everything, chances are she isn’t that into the date. There’s an unspoken understanding that a man paying for everything is a form of “copulatory gift,” which is almost universal in all animal species.r
  54. Eye contact, or a “copulatory gaze,” is a primary and powerful tool for attracting a potential date for both men and women. However, the meaning of various types of eye contact differs from culture to culture.l
  55. Statistics show that trying to get a relationship to work with an ex doesn’t usually work. The case where it might work is if there were extenuating circumstances of the breakup, such as one of couple had been going through a family tragedy or moved.l
  56. In American society, when a man offers his date his palm face up, he is most likely deeply attracted to the woman. In fact, a human’s brain is wired to respond to hand gestures and hand shapes, though the brain’s response depends on the man or woman’s culture and ethnicity.l
  57. Research shows that men know they’re falling in love after just three dates, but women don’t fall in love until date 14.c
  58. kiss
    An average couple will kiss on the second date
  59. On average, daters will kiss on the second date.c
  60. A recent AOL survey says that 40% of women view an appropriate time frame to wait for sex as being one to three months, while 35% of men think the third date is fine. On average, couples have sex within about four to six dates.h
  61. Twenty-nine percent of Americans have had sex on the first date.h
  62. It is hard for a man to strike up a conversation if there are just two women at a social scene because he doesn’t want the other friend to feel abandoned. So a woman who is looking to attract a date should bring two “wing women” with her.q
  63. Talking to a bartender makes a woman seem more friendly and makes it easier for a guy to jump in on her conversation.q
  64. A woman can increase the likelihood of a man approaching her if she uncrosses her arms, makes subtle eye contact, and smiles.q
  65. Italian food is one of the most popular restaurants for a first date.b
  66. Twenty to 40 million Americans have used online dating services. Nearly 50% of online daters are aged 18-34 and 24% are 35-44.e
  67. On average, there are 86 unmarried men for every 100 unmarried women in the U.S., though the actual numbers vary according to region.f
  68. New York and Washington have the most state residents who are unmarried, 50% and 70%, respectively. Idaho and Utah have the most state residents who are married, 60% and 59%.f
  69. Approximately 48% of online daters reported that their breakups occurred via email.e
  70. On Match.com, 132 million winks are sent out each year and members go out on a six million dates per year.j
  71. eHarmony.com boasts that 236 of its members marry each day, accounting for 2% of U.S. marriages.d
  72. “Desperate” daters are typically always available, are clingy, need constant relationship status updates, fish for compliments, drop their standards, and rationalize bad treatment.r
  73. single man
    Over half of all singles in America have not had a date in over two years
  74. Over 50% of all singles in America have not had a date in more than two years.o
  75. Five types of women that men tend to avoid are serial flirters, someone who talks about marriage too soon, clingy women, the party-girl, and a woman who talks too much or is drama queen.l
  76. Four common date blunders include showing up late, talking about yourself too much, revealing too much about your ex, and an obvious over-eagerness.l
  77. A man’s top dating fears include that a woman will come between him and his friends, won’t allow him free time, will turn out to be a stalker, won’t respect him, or will be too high maintenance.m
  78. Five common signs a man may be cheating in a relationship are that he accuses his partner of cheating, he’s extremely vague, he seems to be compensating by acting extra nice for no reason, he’s always at work, and his partner's friends drop her hints.l
  79. The curve of the counter in a bar is designed so other customers can easily “check out” other customers. Bars also purposely place mirrors to help create a larger sense of place and to allow a person to scope out other people behind them.q
  80. Signs that a man is about to break up with a woman include that he spends less time with her, he is no longer romantic, passionate kissing turns into quick pecks (particularly no kiss during sex), he fantasizes about someone else during sex, he pats her during a hug, and he tries to start fights.l
  81. An attractive online “About Me” section in your online dating profile often includes a brief description of what you are passionate about or thankful for, a couple of things your friends say about you, qualities you are looking for in a potential partner, the first thing people notice about you (other than appearance), how you spend your leisure time, five things you can’t live without, and the latest good book you’ve read.i
  82. Humans like mystery and “the chase,” so don't be too “available” to a date. Dating experts typically suggest not sleeping too early with a date because the longer the chase, the more likely love will blossom.q
-- Posted January 8, 2010
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b Cartler, Gregory. “Appropriate Restaurants.” AskMen.com. Accessed: December 27, 2009.
c Daily, Lisa. “Dating Averages: What’s Your Normal?” Canoe.ca. September 18, 2009. Accessed: December 29, 2009.
d “Dating Tips.” eHarmony.com. Accessed: December 28, 2009.
e Evans, David. “Match.com Success Rate.” Online Dating Insider. Accessed: December 29, 2009.
f “Facts for Features: Unmarried and Single Americans Week.” CensusBureau.gov. July 21, 2009. Accessed: December 24, 2009.
g Grewal, Sukdeep. “Tiger Woods Sex Scandal ‘Turns-off’ Netizens Looking for ‘Discreet’ Relationships.” TopNews.in. December 23, 2009. Accessed: December 26, 2009.
h Langer, Gary. “Poll: American Sex Survey.” ABCNews.com. October 21, 2004. Accessed: December 29, 2009.
i Mapes, Diane. 2006. How to Date in a Post-Dating World. Seattle, WA: Sasquatch Books.
j “Member Statistics.” Match.com. Accessed: December 29, 2009.
k Naik, Anita.2004. Flirtology: Over 100 Ways to Release Your Inner Flirt. New York, NY: Penguin Books.
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n “U.S. Dating Services Market Now Worth $1.8 Billion, Holding Up Despite the Recession.”  Marketdata Enterprise, Inc. April 1, 2009. Accessed: January 6, 2010.
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Thursday, October 28, 2010

Update for Autumn!

            Autumn is here! And so are all the wonderful things that come with it! From hot cider and pumpkin pie to hayrides or pumpkin patch excursions on a brisk Saturday morning, and last but not least, a very familiar sight that seems to become a bit more noticeable when the temperature dips and the nights get longer: couples. Just recently I was walking down the streets of Old City, Philadelphia on a gorgeous fall day, breathing in the chilly air, appreciating the beauty of colorful fallen leaves, having a perfectly nice day until I felt a pang of envy and loneliness when I turned towards a gleeful laugh and saw a young man and woman throwing leaves at each other and getting back to their inner child. It seems as though whenever you’re single and lonely you begin noticing couples everywhere, and you can’t help but ask yourself; why can’t I find someone I connect with? Why can’t I have a man or woman to hold me, keep me warm, and enjoy the upcoming holidays with? Is there something wrong with me?

                I’m sure there’s certainly nothing wrong with you. Perhaps you’re just taking the wrong approach and looking in all the wrong places. Would you go to Home Depot to buy jewelry? Probably not. Sure you may be able to find supplies to make it, but there’s a much more convenient tactic: go to a jewelry store. Similarly, sure you can find singles at a bar if you go out with friends, but there is a MUCH more efficient method for you to meet people! And I DO NOT mean internet dating! That’s just a waste of time when you begin to consider how long it takes you to write the “perfect” profile, construct an elegant message that’s sure to get noticed, or wait around for whoever you’ve emailed to answer you.

               The method of dating I’m referring to offers convenience, a stress-free, rejection-free, and private environment, and most importantly, an 80% success rate. Yes…you’ve guest it, I’m referring to a SpeedDateUSA.com event! We pride ourselves on offering premium, exclusive events where clients can relax in a comfortable setting after a hard day’s work and mingle with multiple singles during our the first phase of our events: our singles mixer. Continuing on with our formal speed dating process, you will have the opportunity to enjoy a brief date with 8 to 15 other singles all in just a few hours! Following the event, you’ll enter your matches into our online database, and a day or two later we send them out! Contact information will only be exchanged between two people who have mutually chose each other as a match. Sounds pretty simple, huh? Well that’s because it is! What are you waiting for? Go to www.SpeeDateUSA.com right NOW! Find your city, and register for FREE! Or call 877-215-7464 or email info@speeddateusa.com for more information! I’ll be waiting to hear from you ;-).  


            Yours Truly,
            Christina Rose
Your Go-To Girl for Dating Advice!